It is quite normal to be afraid. Fear is a vital response to physical and emotional danger, and each and every one of us feels it. However, it is very important to face our more irrational fears and try to eradicate them. After all, fear is what holds us back from living our lives to the fullest and being successful.
Fears can be as foolish as thinking that the sky might fall tomorrow (remember Chief Vitalstatistix?) or as crippling as that you could die soon. A recent study conducted by Voucherbox has found that the biggest fear in the UK is personal failure. Of the people 1000 who were surveyed, 12% admitted that they are scared of financial loss, unemployment and being alone.
Such a fear is not irrational at all, and we all at some stage of our lives do worry about losing our jobs, money or our special ones. However, it is important to deal with this, and one way to do it is to go through self-help books.
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Some might scoff at the idea of reading self-help guides, but they are very helpful, and one can get a collection of such books from Audible. Gabrielle Bernstein’s The Universe Has Your Back: Transform Fear into Faith and Declutter Your Mind: How to Stop Worrying, Relieve Anxiety, and Eliminate Negative Thinking by S.J. Scott are two books that would help you a lot. Of course, you would have to use them properly and also have the discipline to follow through to make the most of them.
Fears of clowns, heights and flying are more common than you might think, with 11% of those who responded to the survey admitting to them. Self-help books are great in tackling such issues, as they allow you to understand how others in your position have dealt with them.
While seeking help can be construed as weak, how can you deal with the fear of being judged by others without talking to someone or knowing that others have similar issues as well? It is the greatest fear among men (9%), and it is important that they tackle it.
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Tackling Fears Head on
It is imperative to deal with fears before they take over your life. Would you want to add your name to the list of 5% who have lost a job due to their phobia? Or would you want to risk bad health like the 11% of those who were surveyed did or see a relationship end as what happened to 7% of the survey’s respondents?
You need to have a strategy to tackle your phobias and seek help. It could be as apparently non-consequential as fear of insects or as seemingly daunting as public speaking, but to lead richer and fuller lives, we need to get over such fears.
There are fascinating and true stories of people getting over Arachnophobia and OCD. As former USA president Franklin D Roosevelt said in his inauguration speech in Washington on March 4,1933, the only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
It’s high time that we get the Fear Factor out of our lives… once and for all. Is a world without irrational fears too much to ask?